Two roads diverged in a wood and I-
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
Life is full of crossroads. Diverging paths present themselves, and we must choose the way. For some, circumstance decides the road we take and we are forced down a path not by free will but simply by what happens to us.
However you arrived on this road, you are here, in the midst of it. Perhaps you are stunned that this is where you have ended up. You may find yourself asking questions like: “How did I get here?,” “Why me?,” and “Do I have the strength to face what lies ahead?” Perhaps you no longer know who you are.
You may feel alone, that the rocks are too hard on your feet and the hills are too high. You cannot see your way ahead. Maybe you wish that you took the other road or that you can somehow escape this one, but you continue to find yourself where you are despite these wishes or regrets.
Whether your road has been shaped by the experience of raising a child with special needs, by loss, illness or trauma, extraordinary stress can feel like your life is unraveling and that you are falling to pieces. In the face of this stress, you may not only lose sight of the way ahead but you may also experience a loss of meaning and purpose.
As a therapist, I help by shining a light on what you cannot see. In the support and safety of the therapeutic relationship, the obstacles that previously obscured your way can start to take on new shapes. The steps you have already taken assume different meanings and you can start to see new possibilities ahead of you. In this process of opening up to your life, you can discover that you are not alone and that you have the capacity to thrive despite the strain.
Therapy provides an opportunity for creating inner clarity and knowing and in rebuilding an internal foundation that you can continue to call on throughout the rest of your life. Through the therapeutic relationship, you can begin to know yourself in a deeper way, and find meaning and purpose in your journey. In the end, you may find that the road you were so desperate to run from has become the way “home.”